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A template for higher awareness, growth and healing.
Four Dimensional (4-D) Wheel: A template for higher awareness, growth, and healing
The Four-Dimensional Wheel approach to body, mind, heart, and spirit is an embodied practice. It springs from spiritual principles that honor all people, all diversity, and all life. It is grounded in systems theory and sex survey research and has developed through decades of clinical practice. Its healing effects are often extraordinary; they are affirmed by findings of contemporary neuroscience.
The approach is based on the Pachakuti Mesa Tradition where the person’s journey is viewed through the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual quadrants.
The Four-Dimensional Wheel is an invitation to walk the wheel: moving and speaking from the different quadrants helps one step-into new ways to explore, identify, and express an issue, a desire, and possible solutions.
The template is ancient and universal.
You will explore the deepest truths of your sexual stories: body, mind, heart, and spirit.
The work is safe, moving, collaborative, fun, and often surprising.
You can use it immediately with your clients, your partner(s), and most importantly with yourself.
The physical dimension of the 4-D Wheel is the arena where clients can locate and explore a full range of sensory experiences, sometimes in ways they have never considered before.
The path of sensation
A full range of sensory experiences – smell, taste, touch, sight, and hearing.
Movement and stillness. Comfort and safety. Arousal, orgasm, and other physical pleasures.
Awareness of how all parts of the body connect to all the senses.
…and the path of sexual dysfunction
The physical quadrant also includes issues such as pain, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), disease, disability, distorted body image, and sexual dysfunction such as anorgasmia, vaginismus, erectile dysfunction, and premature, delayed, and retrograde ejaculation.
The mental dimension is the arena where clients can seek understanding about the many issues that affect their sexual identity and emotions
The path of discernment and choice
Beliefs and messages about both sexuality and spirituality, including religious messages.
Imagination, intuition, memory, and dreams. Waking dreams and fantasies. Wishes, intentions, anticipations, and expectations.
The mental 4D experience is characterized by an open mind, increased understanding, expanded beliefs, and letting go of judgments about what sex should be like.
…and the path of judgment, guilt, and shame
The mental quadrant is also the container of guilt and shame—those constructs instilled in us by a society, a religious practice, or a community moral code that fears sex and its consequences.
Sometimes sex is absolutely to be feared—given the incidence of rape, incest, and other monstrous sexual aggressions over the course of human history, but most often the monster is the violence and not the sex.
The emotional dimension is the arena where clients can locate and explore a full range of their emotional feeling including how they experience their sexual identity and orientation, how they relate to themselves, their partners, and others, and how their present emotions may be affected by past and possibly the future.
The path of passion and compassion:
A full range of feelings – love, passion, longing, anger, and fear. Whatever touches the heart.
Empathy — the ability to feel what others feel.
Compassion — the Dalai Lama describes this as the ability to love yourself and others no matter how conflicted your feelings may be.
Trust—the ability to let go of control. The emotional ISIS experience is characterized by open-heartedness and heightened feelings.
…and the path of fear and anger
The emotional quadrant is also the container of so-called dark feelings — anger, fear, angst, disgust — any emotions that are the fallout from sexual experiences that were disappointing, controlling, scary, painful, violent, abusive, or just plain boring.
The spiritual dimension is the arena where clients can explore what sex, love, and intimacy mean in the context of their sexual identity and their whole lives ow these may connect them to themselves, their partners, and a power beyond themselves: nature, or a universal energy, by whatever name. For some clients, the spiritual dimension is intimately connected with religious experience; for others it is not.
The path of connection and meaning
The area of connection.
A deep sense of connection with one’s self, one’s partner, one’s tribe and family, and/or a “higher power.”
This can include inner visions, communication with divine forces, experiencing one’s self as part of all that is sacred. The spiritual 4D experience is characterized by increased energy, lasting satisfaction, and transcendence.
…and the path of disconnection and over control
The spiritual quadrant is the container for a variety of “irrational facts” about sexual responses and relationships, including disconnection, isolation, depression, and dissociation.
As well as a problematic need to dominate or be subservient, or to keep oneself or one’s relationship tightly controlled.
These may range from religious and cultural messages to aspects of abuse and trauma that have wounded our spirits as well as our bodies, minds, and emotions.
The place of integration and transformation
As you near the very center of the Wheel, it may begin to feel a place of mystery and paradox where positive and negative merge and create new stories.
The experience of the Center differs from person to person and time to time. It is totally subjective, and yours to define for yourself. You may experience opposites, oneness, and integration.
You may experience extraordinary light and lightness of being. You may find yourself communing profoundly with your partner and with yourself.
It’s a place of clarity and vision, of vastness, and the possibility of unconditional love.
…and the shadow side, when sex falls apart
Where the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual experience meet.
Shadow side of the Center — the experience of pain and repression of pain, the feared, and the unexplored.
The agony of despair, the terror of sexual violence and abuse, the burden of shame, guilt, loneliness, isolation, and dysfunction.
This quadrant is the place of dissociation, as well as of association.
“The truth is, our sexual energy is always with us,
whether or not we choose to act on it in a genital way.
It’s not just about intercourse and orgasm.
It’s about receptiveness and movement.
It’s about our most profound emotions
and how we reach out to touch others.
It’s about how we think and feel and love.
It affects every aspect of our lives and it’s potentially there
until we cease to inhabit this planet.
As a woman wisely said,
“Sex isn’t everything, but it’s part of everything.’ ”
Gina Ogden, PhD
The Heart and Soul of Sex