V-Day is here!
Love is in the air… may be…
I keep seeing posts and blogs about being “so over Valentine’s Day.”
Now I don’t necessarily buy into the fanfare, Hallmark cards, and candy. But, I am also reminded that as humans, we are programmed to connect, love and be loved.
So to ignore or minimize this very human need on a day that is focused on celebrating LOVE, is missing the opportunity to celebrate who we are on a core soul level.
In last week’s post, I wrote about Self-Love being the most important ingredient in any hot and sexy love affair. And, it’s true.
I truly believe and know that only when we are truly in alignment with our own beautiful spirit, can we completely and authentically give and receive real love.
If you aren’t sure where to start with Self-Love, my encouragement to read last week’s blog (click here).
Amidst lovers and loving, perhaps the greatest gift we can give ourselves is learning how to fully accept and love ourselves.
Today I extend two invitations….
One, to inquire on how you share your loving with others in a way that is meaningful to them and to you. Not based on what you might get back from being loving and a lover, but as a reflection of the depth of your self-loving.
Because when we love ourselves first, we can then give, serve, and love without expectations making our well of love suddenly bottomless.
Two, to practice inquiry on how you may be keeping yourself from experiencing and sharing the depth of your loving. The possibility that loneliness, sadness, resentment, grief, and upset are ways to keep yourself, safe in a way, from experiencing the freedom love has for you.
Because romantic love is only one flavor in the rich palette that is LOVE.
I know that for many this day can be quite painful, especially for those in grief or longing.
For me Valentine’s Day can and has been bittersweet.
As a child, my beloved dad would surprise my sister and I with Valentine’s gifts every year. It was always such a joy to find his tokens awaiting our arrival from school. His gesture of love never requiring a thank you.
For many years after he passed, my missing him kept me from celebrating love on this day. The turn-key happened when I recognized how my grief kept me restricted and constricted in an effort to avoid feeling pain again. Allowing myself to feel the sadness and the pain, and feel it all the way, set me free. Free to celebrate his legacy of love that still exists in me on this day and everyday.
If you’re longing for what has yet to arrive, can today be the beginning of releasing needless suffering giving way to nourishing yourself as an unselfish lover does?
And, if you are a partner in a relationship that may not feel so great, consider the invitation to love despite the imperfections of you and your partner without attachment to any particular outcome.
Now I haven’t forgotten about the required word for a great Valentine’s…. helping lovers love loving hot and sexy together.
Lovers loving love hot and sexy together happens when we are willing to engage in one big dirty F word….
Nothing kills romantic love and dims erotic spark like our fanning the flames of resentment, bitterness, and upset.
Forgiving the judgments towards your partner and self.
Forgiving God for actions that may be judged as cruel.
Forgiving past lovers for they were not part of the tapestry the Universe has woven for you.
Forgiving yourself for being human and imperfect.
Forgiving a body that changes.
Forgiving the judgement of feeling and wanting all that you do.
Forgiving, perhaps just enough, to allow yourself a different experience of yourself as a lover, acting from a place of full loving, having no attachment to getting anything back, or waiting for another to pay back an old debt.
Forgiveness sets your free to love and be loved.
Freedom to get LOVED up by LOVE…to reveal the truth about how you really LOVE.
Love cannot be owned, ended, or held captive.
LOVE is a Being, a presence, a reflection of the truest part of your Soul.
You, the essence of LOVE LOVING LOVE fully and purely.
💕 Happy Valentine’s Day… Happy LoveBeing Day 💕
Loving you today and everyday,
PS…Come play and discover different flavors of romantic love at next week’s Love, Intimacy & Attraction Event, info & reservation here. It’s gonna be good 💕.